Make it happen
If you really want to do something, make it happen. Youâ€™ll have a million excuses why you canâ€™t. Youâ€™ll have a million reasons to be pulled in a directionâ€”any directionâ€”away from what you love.
Donâ€™t let those million things take you away from what you love.
All that being said, there are situations where you, no matter how hard you try, wonâ€™t be able to do that thing that you loveâ€”but more often than not, those situations are temporary. Six months ago, I couldnâ€™t write. I had a week-old newborn, I was up half the night feeding her, I was in immense pain all the time, I spent the daytime hours trying to keep my 2- and 3-year-olds from destroying the house, and I still had a fuzzy mind leftover from pregnancy brain.
Needless to say, I could not make the time to write.
The tough part is trying to decide what is a limitation and what is an excuse. What helps me is knowing my priorities. For me, being happy and raising my kids are more important than writing. But watching TVâ€”or even reading a bookâ€”and being crafty or cleaning the house are not.
So the limitations in life give me situations where I prioritize. If Iâ€™m up all night with a newborn, my happiness would be compromised if I tried to wake up early to write. So I wonâ€™t. If Iâ€™m contemplating staying up all night on Pinterest, I wonâ€™t, either, because that would compromise my writing, which takes priority over the Internet.
Obviously Iâ€™m not perfect every day. Just last night I stayed up far too late reading, which means I woke up late this morning to write. (And, yes, sleep does take priority over writing because it directly affects my happiness.) But I can do it more often than not.
And knowing my priorities gives me strength to say no to many things I enjoy and like so that I can have time to make the things I love happen.